D I L E M M A R E C A P # 2 1 .
Dilemma of the day:
“I’ve recently been asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend, and to be honest I was quite surprised as I’ve only known her a few years. I’m honoured that she thinks of me this way, but I’m a bit concerned about the cost and whether I’d be able to make myself available enough to help. I’m based in Melbourne and the bride (and wedding) is in Sydney. The bride sent all the maids an email of the dates for dress fittings, planning days and parties and I’m not sure I’ll be able to afford to come up to all of the events. I don’t want to decline, but I also don’t want to be MIA. What should I do?” #mwdilemma
Dilemma of the day:
“My mother-in-law recently pulled my hubby to be aside while we were visiting from interstate to tell us she wanted us to have an engagement party as she’s not sure her mother will make it to the wedding, due to ill health. We had previously told her we did not want to an engagement party as our wedding is 6 months away, and we are already holding it near Sydney to accommodate his and my family, as we are the only ones interstate. Not only does she want this, she also wants to invite her friends, and exclude my hubby-to-be’s father and other grandmother from the festivities. While she has said she will pay for the party, it will still mean a big cost for us, travelling, missing work and also my family who would have to travel from the country. My HTB already has a very poor relationship with his mother and this will only make it worse.
I don’t know how to diplomatically tell her we do not want an engagement party, as well as the guilt about his nan who may/may not be around for the wedding. Please help!” #mwdilemma
Dilemma of the day:
“My fiancé and I would love to get married on a cruise ship! We only have a small guest list of about 30-50 people. The cruise is about $400 pp. We’re not really sure what the right thing to do is. Should we budget to pay for all of our guests? Or can we offer to pay for part of it? Is it rude to expect guests to pay for their cruise?” #mwdilemma
Dilemma of the Day:
“My partner wants the formality of a sit down meal but I would prefer the ease of canapés and a less formal meal. My main reason is to save money on hiring all the tables, chairs, table decorations, crockery and cutlery, and the stress of doing a seating plan. Does anyone know some way to compromise or to make the evening more formal without a sit down meal? #MWDilemma
Dilemma of the Day:
“I am newly engaged and my fiancé and I have already spoken of our bridal party. He only wants 4 guys to stand with him….I have chosen 4…my best friend, 2 of my gfs and my eventually sister in law…my dilemma is my fiance has 3 other sisters aged 8, 14 and 16…plus his brothers gf. I want to include them in some way and was considering making them honorary bridesmaids….has anyone done anything like this before and what other ways can I include them or make them feel a part of the wedding?” #MWDilemma
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